Lauren Calder Psychologist
HCPC: PYL043505 | EMDR Trained
HPCSA: PS0091685
Ego
Understanding Your Patterns.
Changing How You Live.
Understanding your inner patterns is not abstract work.
It is the beginning of clarity, of freedom, and of a more
grounded way of living.
When you begin to see the patterns that shape your reactions, your relationships, and your inner world, something shifts.
You are no longer simply reacting: you are able to respond.
Do you recognise yourself here?
Do you sometimes feel unsure why you react the way you do?
Overwhelmed by emotions, self-doubt, or patterns you cannot seem to shift?
Do you find yourself repeating the same relational dynamics, despite wanting something different?
These patterns are not random. They are structured, meaningful,
and often rooted in earlier adaptations that once served you.
But what once protected you may now be limiting you.
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A structured path toward understanding and change
This course offers a grounded, psychologically informed approach
to understanding your personality patterns and how they shape your life.
This does not mean labelling yourself.
It is about recognising the structures beneath your experience, and learning how to work with them.
Course Outcomes
Understand Your Pattern
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Identify your core personality pattern and the underlying ego strategy that shapes your thoughts, emotions, and behaviour
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Understand how fear, anger, and shame influence personality development
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Explore the three centres of intelligence (thinking, feeling, and doing) and how they shape your experience of the world
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Recognise the influence of early experiences and childhood disappointments on your current patterns
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Understand Relationships
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Develop insight into your partner’s and family members’ emotional needs and ways of relating
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Understand how personality patterns shape communication, conflict, and connection
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Gain deeper awareness of your child’s emotional world and the underlying drivers of their behaviour
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Learn how personality influences perception, expectations, and relational dynamics
Create Change
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Understand how different personality patterns respond to disappointment and emotional triggers in adult life
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Recognise both healthy and unhelpful expressions of your pattern
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Learn the pathways to growth (integration) and stress (disintegration) for each type
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Begin to shift from automatic patterns toward more conscious, flexible ways of relating
A structured 5-part journey from awareness to change:
Lesson 1
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Understanding Your Pattern
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Lesson 2
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How Your Patterns Form
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Lesson 3
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Childhood and Emotional Patterns
Lesson 4
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Responding to Disappointment
Lesson 5
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Applying the Lessons in Adult Life
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Not sure if this is right for you?
Start with a short introduction to the course.
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If you are ready to understand your patterns more deeply, and begin making meaningful, lasting changes:
About Lauren Calder:
With over 20 years in private practice, I have worked with recurring patterns that shape how people think, feel, and relate.
Much of what brings people into therapy is not isolated difficulty, but the repetition of patterns that are often not fully understood.
This course draws from those clinical insights, offering a structured way to recognise these patterns and begin to work with them more consciously.
Real experiences from people who have completed the course:
Jenn Naw
"Very insightful and clearly laid out! I will be recommending this course to a few people. I loved it and felt like I came away with a little bit more knowledge about my self.""
Jane Bytheway, UK
""Excellent introduction to the different aspects of the enneagram. Just the right balance of information and also easy to revisit a lesson to hear it again as new thoughts emerge.""
Kate Frankforter, ANCHORAGE
""I have a lot of experience with the Enneagram and I found this course clear and very understandable. The teacher is able to convey a very complex system of the Enneagram in a very understandable and accurate way. ""
Shea Chambers
Very informative and helpful. Well laid out and easy to follow."
"May Meredith, ARKANSAS, USA
"Excellent, clear information!"