Lauren Calder Psychology

"From a psychologist’s perspective, finding yourself in the same pattern across relationships is not a sign that you are somehow drawing this to yourself. It is more likely a repeated return to the template for love that you absorbed long before you were old enough to question it."

We've all had a gut feeling that turned out to be right. And we've all had a sense of dread that amounted to nothing at all. Clients sit across from me genuinely unable to distinguish between the two, and I experience it too. Because in the moment, the two can feel the same in the body: the chest tightens, something feels like it doesn't "add up", and the urge to decide becomes important. So how do you actually tell them apart?​